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It’s Not Enough to Own Her, Can You Make Her Happy?
You fought so hard, and now she’s yours.
She becomes a trophy you show off to your friends and family. She may not be your wife yet. She may be your fiancée or simply your “girlfriend,” as it’s called.
One day, a beautiful butterfly flew into my compound.
“Wow! What a beauty,” I thought.
I chased it (leaping, hopping, jumping, diving) until I finally caught it. I hid it in the palm of my hands and went indoors. I left a tiny opening to peep at it, not minding whether I was suffocating it. I held its wings, admiring it while it struggled.
I gasped, utterly astonished at its design. What an allure!
Mesmerized beyond normalcy, I fondled it. But strangely, its wings began to lose color the more I touched it. After about half an hour, I paused and asked myself:
Now what?
Can I feed it? No.
Can I nurture it? No.
Can I keep it company? No.
So what exactly was I doing?
I let it go; sadly, with a broken wing.
When I was much younger, I used to pluck every beautiful flower I came across and tuck them into my hair. Slowly but surely, I watched them wither. Then I would pull them out and drop them on the floor, where people would trample on them.
Ironically, my father kept a collection of flowers at home. I would watch him tenderly water, prune, and care for them. I noticed I never plucked my father’s flowers.
Little Miss Pearl began to ponder.
A woman is like that flower.
A lady in her prime is like that butterfly.
Her confidence—the very thing you admire,
Her beauty—the glow you adore,
These are the results of being nurtured.
You want her. But are you willing to pour into her?
To triple her confidence?
To enhance her beauty with peace, joy, and reassurance?
Many women are unhappy in their marriages and relationships: drained and strained, their radiance sucked out of them. Their sense of worth disappears, their confidence dwindles. They settle for the bare minimum.
But a woman whose cup is empty cannot water your garden.
Your garden represents your safe haven: your mind, your home, your dreams.
It is true that many men choose a partner based on value, compatibility, and goals. But marriage comes with responsibility.
You may not always feel sparks or butterflies, but once you choose her, you have a duty to make her happy.
I see so many women: wives, mothers, partners—unhappy.
But when a woman is happy, everyone in the home becomes happy.
She glows. She radiates. She becomes productive and creative. She has enough to give.
Yet many women are crying, and it breaks my heart.
Who is responsible?
A man may love a woman and still be her greatest source of pain. His trauma, his pride, his unhealed wounds may be the problem. Relationships require conscious effort. A business is built, a house is constructed, and a relationship must also be watered, nurtured, and pruned.
And oh, what a harvest it can bring!
She’s yours, but she can be happy too.
And when you make her happy, you become the happiest of all, because she doubles the love and pours it back into you and the home.
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