"Never give up on your dreams."
John's Father happens to be a military man. He despises the weak. His language is violence, rudity and arrogance.
He believes John must take after him in domineering strength. He wants John to walk the line of the military with him. But poor Johnny loves to paint, he loves to sing and dance. Johnny is his father's punching bag, Johnny's back bears a lot of scars.
Johnny is kind, and compassionate. He has a big heart towards mankind. A kindness his father misspells as weakness.
Regardless of the physical abuse, he's always smiling and he loves to be the source of joy to others. Very few people actually know the turmoil of Johnny. They don't see him when he cries at night, when he's scared to give his potential full radiance.
Johnny wants to make Daddy proud, but deep beneath his breast is a panting desire to bless the world with his gifts. Johnny confides in his mother who understands him, but is too scared to help his flower bloom.
There's another case of an Aunt taking care of her niblings. Their parents passed away in a traumatizing motor accident. There was an explosion and their bodies were unidentifiable.
She loves her late sister well enough to fend for her kids, along the line she gets weary and forces the kids into child labor. She beats them up whenever there's little returns: not because she hates them, but because she's frustrated and anxious.
"I'm not your mother!" She says "I'm not your father! I'm only trying my best and I need you to help yourselves!"
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Orator:
It's not unusual in Africa; child labour. Some kids are made to hawk, they are abused domestically and deprived of the fundamentals - education - and the basic things vital for growth and acute development.
Family planning is essential, but some precedents are beyond foresight. Hitting your children doesn't necessarily right the wrongs; that's just the language of violence, and in most cases it instigates a heart of rebellion. One day they would develop the ability to withstand the pain and torture, involuntarily they'd return the favour. Have you seen children hit their parents? It's what they've been taught all their lives! Now programmed to be aggressive: they hit their peers, they hit their partners and spouses, they hit their siblings and extend it to instigate rascally, scandalous, conflicts amongst groups; because they are non-native to amicability.
Why would a parent enforce his dreams on his child? You are the medium through which he/she came into this world. Instead of crushing it, help your kid discover his or her dream.
Passion enables one to see a project to the end. A lot of persons quit somethings in life not because they lack potential, but because they are not aligned with the task.
There is a strength that wells up in each of us. There's a giant within every living soul, a conqueror, a fighter. Some call it adrenaline or survival instincts.
Accept your kids for who they are. Some impose failed dreams on their kids. "I wanted to be this and this, but since I can be only this, I want you to be that."
You only guide your kids, don't decide their career path. My parents - one of blessed memory - happen to be liberal folks. They weren't always like that, but when you truly love someone, you let go.
Violence isn't always the answer, but everyone responds to the language of love, of patience, and understanding.
We aren't all perfect as we are, but a willingness to learn is a step closer to perfection. Every family has things they aren't so proud of, horrendous mistakes. But there should be a decisiveness to stick around and mend the crumbling bridges. You can all be "One Big Happy Family!"
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