The Prison of Hatred and Bitterness
It’s always the eyes once filled with admiration.
It’s always the heart that once radiated awe.
Now replaced with depth beyond reconciliation,
Suddenly, love and trust become irrefutably lost.
When Admiration Turns Sour
Most people end up hating what they wish to be but cannot become, or what they wish to have but cannot possess. That sense of intimidation makes them feel smaller, less seen, less recognized, or even unheard. They begin to feel threatened, replaceable, and incompetent—like among five fingers on a palm, they feel theirs is the shortest.
At the sight or mention of this person or thing, they feel deep displeasure. That person becomes a negative mirror, reflecting only what they cannot be or what they do not have. Other times, it’s simply because that very person or thing has once caused great pain.
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The Upside of Hate
Hate isn’t always destructive: it can, in rare moments, serve as a boundary setter. People use hate to establish distance from what no longer serves them. When used on the right “screen set,” hate can be a tool for disconnection from toxicity.
For instance, one’s hatred of poverty could push them to the extreme. Whether they conquer the “elephant” or are crushed by it, the hunger ends. Hatred, in this sense, becomes a driving force to escape discomfort. But when misdirected, it becomes poison.
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The True Prison
Hatred and bitterness are silent destroyers that eat away at the soul. They begin as reactions to pain, betrayal, or injustice; but if left unchecked, they grow into chains that imprison the heart.
Hatred blinds us to reason. It breeds resentment, making us relive the hurt over and over again. Bitterness is the residue of that hatred: a slow, burning toxin that hardens the spirit and robs us of joy. Together, they turn wounds into weapons and memories into prisons.
Letting go doesn’t mean forgetting or condoning the wrong done. It means choosing peace over poison, healing over hurt. Forgiveness isn’t weakness—it’s freedom. It’s the act of reclaiming control over your heart and refusing to let anger define your future.
Hatred and bitterness may feel powerful for a moment, but only love and understanding can truly restore the soul.
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Moving On from Decapitated Buildings
Marriages fail. Relationships fade. But bitterness keeps many people stuck in those crumbled carcasses.
How can a divorced woman still be bitter ten years later? She’s trapped.
Peace and happiness are found in letting go of negativity. It’s not forgetting: it’s freeing yourself to breathe again.
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How to Overcome Hatred and Bitterness
1. Build High Self-Esteem and Self-Worth – Know who you are. Confidence weakens resentment.
2. Admire Others Genuinely – Celebrate people’s wins; it leaves no room for envy.
3. Work on Yourself – Invest in self-discovery, self-love, and self-development.
Forgiveness is underrated. Forgive others for being more excellent than you—it’s not their fault. They didn’t ask for their gifts and potentials; they simply made the most of them.
Forgive all who bruised you, wounded you, used you, or belittled your ego. Only then will you be truly free to explore new paths and embrace new beginnings.
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A Path to Healing
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