Boundaries

 Why do you keep letting the wrong set of people into your life?

It's because you are scared of being lonely.

Do not fear proximity, still, there should be rules (do's and don'ts), and there should be boundaries.

Boundaries: The Silent Language of Self-Respect

Boundaries are not walls; they are bridges with gates; doors that open to love, trust, and connection, but close to exploitation and disrespect. They are the invisible lines that define where you end and where another begins. Without them, one dissolves into the needs, demands, and chaos of others, slowly forgetting the melody of their own heart.

To set a boundary is to whisper to the world, “I matter too.” It is an act of self-preservation wrapped in courage. Many fear boundaries because they have been taught that love means endurance; that to care is to overextend, to sacrifice oneself endlessly for others. But love without boundaries becomes martyrdom. Compassion without limits breeds resentment.

Boundaries are not selfish; they are sacred. They are a declaration that your peace is not a playground, that your energy is not an open tap for those who only take. When you say no, it is not rejection: it is redirection. It is the gentle art of honoring yourself, even when the world calls you cold.

There is power in choosing your own company over forced togetherness, in walking away from conversations that pierce your spirit, in saying this is enough and meaning it. Boundaries teach others how to treat you, but more importantly, they remind you how to treat yourself.

And yes, setting them hurts. It aches to disappoint people who have grown accustomed to your silence, your compliance, your easy yes. But every strong soul must learn that peace often comes wrapped in discomfort. That healing sometimes wears the face of distance.

To draw a boundary is to reclaim your life. It is to plant your feet firmly and say: Here I stand. Here I breathe. Here I am.

Never fear losing those who are not scared of losing you.

But what if they leave when I say "No?" 

What if they don't respect my boundaries and can't meet up?

Boundaries are filters. They expose and reveal true intentions. They help weigh/measure the gravity of emotional and mental investments people deposit and are willing to invest.

A lot of individuals lack boundaries. Sometimes people lower their boundaries to accommodate others who only end up walking all over them. If you don't respect yourself, do not expect others to do the opposite. People would treat you how you treat yourself.

If you really want to keep some persons in your life, set up boundaries. A city without walls becomes a refuse hill. It's the city with walls that inhabits immigrants and citizens.

So, you find a balance between proximity and boundaries. Do not excessively push people away... Nonetheless, do not be a tourist center or site attraction without protocol.

"How do I set the right boundaries?"

"How do I uphold my boundaries?"

"How do I learn to find balance between proximity and boundaries?"

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